What’s up, brothers? And to the few sisters out there, welcome back to Thailand Inner Circle. Let’s get right into it: Your Replacement Just Arrived Today. And not just one, but hundreds of other guys landed in Bangkok, ready to take your place. This cycle happens every single day, all year long.
Every year, around 40 million people visit Thailand. Around half of them are single men, many coming here for the same reasons, bars, nightlife, and the women you are. That means 20 million guys walk through Nana Plaza, Soi Cowboy, and Pattaya’s Walking Street, soi 6 and so on, all thinking they’ve found something special. But here’s the truth, You’re Not Special! If you’ve been chatting up a girl from a gogo bar or a beer bar, thinking she’s different because she makes time for you, or because she texts you every day, you need to wake up.
You might think that because she laughs at your jokes, sends you cute messages, or talks about missing you, that you’ve built something real. But in reality that doesn’t mean a damn thing. The moment you leave, another guy takes your spot. The moment she needs money, she’s texting someone else. The moment she sees an opportunity for a better deal, she’s considering her options. Feelings aren’t facts. Your emotions don’t change reality, and the reality is You’re Not The Only One!
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Their nature is to survive, secure their future, and take the best possible deal available to them. That’s not good or bad, it just is.
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Now, let’s be clear, this isn’t about blaming Thai women. It’s about understanding their reality. Just like a bear isn’t bad for being a bear, a Thai woman working in this scene isn’t bad for doing what she does. A bear’s nature is to chew your face off if you get too close, it’s just a wild animal doing what it’s supposed to do. Women in this environment operate the same way. Their nature is to survive, secure their future, and take the best possible deal available to them. That’s not good or bad, it just is.
If you’re not physically here, you’re irrelevant. And even if you are here, you’re still competing. Some of the best, most confident guys I know have had this happen to them. It’s not about being weak, it’s about it being a numbers game. If there’s a better opportunity, she’s going to take it. Her priority is herself, her family, her future, not the romantic fantasy you’re selling yourself in your head.
Want proof? Stick around long enough and you’ll hear the truth straight from the source. The women who know us and see us regularly, especially the ones who work in bars and clubs, don’t even try to hide it. They’ll openly admit: “Oh yeah, I have a guy in the U.S. who sends me money every month. But he’s not here, so why not have fun?” OR “I have another boyfriend in Germany. He sends me XYZ, but he’s not here for six months, so let’s go party.”
That’s the reality and it happens all the time.
Now, I know some of you are thinking, “But JC, we had something real! I took her on a trip, we talked about our feelings, she told me she loved me!” Yeah? That Doesn’t mean jack squat. That was then. What about now? You’re back home, she’s still here, and she’s not waiting for you. Sure, she’ll text you, video call you, maybe even sweet-talk you into sending a little cash, but you have zero clue what she’s doing when you’re not around. And that’s the whole point.
You cannot manage a relationship from afar, especially here. In Western countries, long distance relationships sometimes work because of cultural differences, personal values, or social pressure. But in Thailand it’s all about the here and now. Thai culture is about living in the present. They don’t stress about the long-term because they focus on who and what is right in front of them.
Even if a girl genuinely likes you, that doesn’t stop her from needing money. It doesn’t pay her rent. It doesn’t feed her kid or kids. It doesn’t get her to work every night. If you’re not filling that role, someone else is. And even if you are helping her financially, chances are high that she has another guy or two filling in the gaps. I don’t say this to be harsh, I say it because I’ve seen it 99.99% of the time.
You don’t have to like this reality. You don’t even have to agree with it. But you need to wake up to it. Some of you are living in a fantasy world, thinking you’re “establishing a real connection” just because you’re texting some girl before you even get here. That’s not reality. You might think you’re building a relationship, but what’s actually happening is you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
That’s why I give the advice I do. That’s why I tell you to keep it simple, meet women in person, and avoid long distance illusions. The more you chat online, the less likely she is to actually be into you when you arrive. Why? Because you’re just another dude behind a screen. And the more you type, the more you talk, the more likely you are to ruin the real life attraction before it even begins.
I know what some of you will say, “Well, I know a guy who met his Thai girlfriend online and it worked out!” Yeah? That guy is one in a hundred thousand. That’s the exception, not the rule. Are you willing to gamble on being the exception? Because most guys lose that bet.
Even guys who are here get played. Even guys who live here full-time deal with this reality. So what makes you think that from halfway across the world, you’re filling all her needs? And if you’re not sending money? Forget it, someone else is. If you are sending money? She’s still talking to someone else. That’s just how it goes here.
She had a life before you. She had a hustle before you. And that doesn’t stop just because you came along. You don’t know her after spending two or three weeks together. You only know what she showed you.
Now, let me be clear, there are great women in Thailand. I’m not saying every woman is out here running game. But if you’re meeting women in the nightlife scene, in beer bars or gogo bars you need to manage your expectations. If you’re looking for a relationship or worse love in all the places designed for temporary fun, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
At the end of the day, you can do whatever you want. But don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re different from the millions of guys who have come before you because your replacement just arrived today. And tomorrow, several hundred more will follow.
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