Don’t Be That Guy in Thailand
What’s up, what’s up, it’s your boy JC, coming at you again from Bangkok, Thailand! Alright, let’s not mess around. Let’s get into it.
This topic, man, this one comes up all the damn time. I’m talking three different dudes in the past week alone, all pulling the same rookie move. So let’s get this straight once and for all:
One in the hand, two in the bush.
Yeah, I know, that sounds like some old-school proverb your granddaddy might say, but it’s the hard truth when you’re out here in the bars, the clubs, and the streets of Thailand.
Let me break it down for you…
The Good Vibe at the Bar
These guys, good dudes, either in the group or guys I just met recently, we’re out, bar hopping, having a great time. The music’s good, the drinks are flowing, the vibe is right. And then, like clockwork, it happens. One of these dudes finds that ONE chick. The vibe is on point. She’s flirty, she’s fun, she’s not draining his wallet by ordering drinks for her whole crew. She’s choosing him. She’s giving all the signals, and they’re vibing hard. Best night of the trip. Best night in a long damn time, for some of these guys.
And then… this dumb-ass thought creeps in:
“Maybe I’ll do better at the next bar.”
Bro, what the actual fuck are you thinking?!
Let me say it louder for the guys in the back: If you’re having the best time of your night, hell, maybe the best time of your whole trip, and you think you’re gonna leave that behind to “do better” at the next spot, you’re out of your damn mind.
You’re not gonna “find better.” And even if by some miracle you do, what makes you think the one you’re with is gonna still be there, waiting for you when you crawl back looking stupid when you didn’t find a better option?
I get it, some of you think you’re in a video game, leveling up every bar you hit. Newsflash: You’re not. This ain’t a XBox, this is real life. When you find something good, when the chemistry is clicking, when the drinks are cold, the music’s pumping, and she’s all over you, lock it down. You won. That’s your win for the night. Take it!
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You’re not gonna “find better.” And even if by some miracle you do, what makes you think the one you’re with is gonna still be there, waiting for you when you crawl back…
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The Missed Opportunity
I told all three of these guys the same thing. And thank God, they listened. They stuck with the one they had, didn’t go chasing that “two in the bush” fantasy, and guess what? They had an amazing night. Every one of them. They came back to me with big-ass smiles and stories that’ll last a lifetime.
But here’s the kicker: Not everyone listens.
One of the guys in our group didn’t. He was vibing hard with this one chick, but decided to “go see if I can do better.” He walked away, went off chasing that next thrill, and when he came crawling back an hour later, she was gone. Somebody else had scooped her up. Because she was amazing, and he didn’t lock it down when he had the chance.
That’s how it works, fellas. That’s the one in the hand, two in the bush game. You drop what you’ve got chasing after something you think might be better, and you end up with nothing or worse—you end up with a disappointment, having settled and picked one you were only OK about, and end up only having an OK time instead of the kind of night you’ll remember the rest of your life.
The Smart Win
And listen, I get it, sometimes a guy’s new to Thailand, maybe it’s his first trip, maybe his second, maybe he’s fresh off a divorce or a bad breakup. Everything feels exciting. Every new girl feels like the best thing that’s ever happened, the hottest girl he’s ever laid his hands on. I get it. Been there, done that. And yeah, sometimes you’ll meet someone even better later on.
But if you’re in the moment, vibing with a girl, having the best time of your trip, and you think, “Maybe I can do better,” you’re thinking like a damn woman. That’s hypergamy. That’s the grass-is-greener bullshit that they do, and it’ll screw you over almost every time, just like it screws them.
You gotta learn to recognize the win when it’s staring you in the face. When she’s laughing at your jokes, when she’s not draining your wallet, when she’s flirty, sexy and fun and making you feel like a man, you take that. You don’t second-guess it, you don’t overthink it, you go with it.
Final Thoughts
So, fellas, remember this. When you find that vibe, lock it down. Don’t let your ego, your curiosity, or your FOMO talk you into throwing it away. That’s how you end up going home alone, scrolling through your camera roll, wondering what the hell went wrong.
Stay smart. Stay sharp. And don’t be that guy.
That’s all I got for today.
It’s your boy JC, peace out.
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